I have a confession: I’ve been kinda sorta “off” these past few days. You know: doubting myself, not having the best workouts, worrying about the little things, inconsistent appetite, being anxious, feeling exhausted and on edge. I think it was partially the weather, but also mostly due to a big four-letter word: F-E-A-R.
Mostly due to my health coaching business, that is. Fear of being successful. “Will I be able to make a salary that can support me through my health coaching business?”
Fear of making it happen. “How will I get there? Will I get enough clients? Should I take on a full time job in the meantime, even if I hate it? No, then I will lose my focus..”
Fear of the future, the what ifs? and the hows? “What will my life be like in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years? Will this path lead to the life I want it to be?”
Fear of being good enough. “I know some people may judge me for taking a huge risk & going off the beaten path to follow my dreams. Are they right?”
While all of these crazy thoughts were flowing through my mind, there could not have been a more perfect lecture featured this week in Nutrition School. It was all about fear, and overcoming common concerns students may have like “Can I support myself?” or “Will people take me seriously?” THAT’S ME, I thought to myself. I now didn’t feel so alone. The speaker also made a point that this is a very exciting time, and that of course it’s a little scary as well, like any other new venture in life.
We were then led through an exercise where we had to list our top two fears, and then ask ourselves, “Am I 100% positive that this fear is true?” and then “What are these fears costing me?”
I soon realized that most of the time our fears are really just little voices inside our heads that we can simply shut out. For instance, if you’re scared to run your first half marathon, you don’t know you DEFINITELY CAN’T RUN 13.1 MILES. In fact, you most likely can run the distance with some good training, but the fear is holding you back and in turn costing you a pretty huge accomplishment. If you fear (and think) you’re overweight and unhappy, and could never lose the weight because you’re just “stuck,” guess what? You’re definitely not going to lose the weight because you’re too busy running away from it, and eating late-night Ben & Jerry’s.
Since I was fearing not making enough money or being successful, it would cost me just that: zero $$ and zero success. If you want to accomplish something, you need to nip that fear in the bud by actually believing in yourself, and making room for success. Live the life you imagine for yourself as if you already had everything you could already want. Surround yourself with the people you want to be like, LIVE TO YOUR FULL POTENTIAL, carry yourself with confidence, and 9 times out of 10 you’ll get there in time. It’s just how the universe works.