Pre Bedtime Thoughts: On Being Mindful
I’ve come to realize the other day that while we are all in very different places in our lives, we have one thing in common: we tend to question ourselves from time to time. I constantly hear women -from strangers on the train to close friends – chatting about their life choices every day. What am I going to be when I “grow up?”…Am I making enough money?…Am I doing what I really want to do? Am I getting the most out of my life? Am I happy in my relationship? Why am I a college graduate without a “real job?” Is this really worth it? When will everything fall into place? Should I go forth with this business decision?
I myself tend to question my life choices…nearly every day. There’s always something on my mind whether it’s regarding my relationship, family, future or lack-there-of a full time job. Yesterday, I shared these feelings with my blogger pal/relationship expert Jen over at Blonde Bronzed Twenty Something, and what she said really stuck. She was explaining to me how she in the process of paying A LOT of hard-earned money on an unfortunate car issue, and that her temp job has come to an end, but yet she stays positive. “I always try to be mindful,” she said. She went on to tell me that you can mope about the situation you are in or rise above, but that the situation is what it is. It’s not going to suddenly change. So why not make the most of it?
She is absolutely, 100% right. When things get bad, rise above! After all, they are never really as bad as we think they may be. Sure, I may be waitressing right now to make some cash, and it’s not my dream job but I am meeting new people, making some pretty good tips and now have afternoons to figure out what exactly it is I want to do.
YOU CAN DO THE SAME! Got laid off from your job? Revive an old hobby and start painting again! Feeling sorry for yourself that you don’t know what your future holds? Make a list of all the things you want to do and really go after them. Cross them off if you need to…it’ll make you feel accomplished and productive. In major credit card debt? Focus on your wonderful family/children/boyfriend that you do have. Money is not what life is about. LIVE your life. Just broke up with your boyfriend whom you thought was the love of your life? Start dating again. Go on blind dates! Heck, try online dating. Or take that vacation you’ve been wanting to take for years. Your life is yours to live.
So yeah, life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. But if it were, don’t ya think it’d be a little boring? Next time you find yourself feeling confused or questioning things, take some time to be mindful and try to see your situation in a different light. Trust me, it’ll be a lot prettier.
April 8th, 2011 at 9:43 am
Amen. Awesome post.
April 8th, 2011 at 4:12 pm
Thank ya Jess, glad you enjoyed!