What to do When You Don’t Like Your Boyfriend’s Gift & Mushroom Breakfast Sandwich
I’m totally a simple girl when it comes to gifts, meaning I’m perfectly happy with a handwritten card, dinner and a bottle of wine. Being the sentimental, romantic gal that I am, I live for those gifts that come from the heart.
So what’s a girl to do when she doesn’t like said gift from boyfriend? You see, The Boy had given me several gifts this past Valentine’s Day, one being a bracelet that wasn’t quite my style at all. Let’s just say, I’d probably never wear it and I truly felt terrible for not liking it. I tried to, really I did but it just wasn’t me. So I did what I felt I had to do at the time: lied. “I love it! It’s beautiful! And it has pearls!”
But when weeks went by with me not wearing it, and The Boy questioning why I didn’t have it on, I could only use the “It doesn’t match my outfit” excuse so many times. I had gotten myself stuck in a huge rut. I just had to tell him, someway, somehow that I didn’t like his gift…but how? (Ha, that totally sounds like something Dr. Seuss would say)
I decided to ask nearly every person I know and love what to do about the darn bracelet. (Thank you for those who listened to me and gave your opinions.) I received every piece of advice from “Suck it up!” to “Break it!” but after all the tips and tricks, I decided to follow my heart and just be honest.
It went a little like this:
Me: I have to tell you something, but I feel bad. But I have to tell you, but, eek, I can’t!
The Boy: What? Just tell me!
Me: No, I feel bad. I can’t. I just won’t tell you. (covering my face)
The Boy: C’mon, just tell me. Hit me while I’m vulnerable! (He had been out drinking the night before and had a massive hangover)
Me: Fine…OK. It’s about the bracelet you got me, you know the one you got me for Valentine’s Day.
The Boy: It broke?
Me: Not exactly.
The Boy: You don’t like it?
Me: Well…kinda…yea. It’s just really not my style. I like simple things and I feel bad for not wearing it all the time because I know you put a lot of thought into it, but it’s really just not me.
{lots more word vomiting followed}
The Boy: OK. That’s fine, but can you make me one of your famous breakfast sandwiches?
And so I did.
mmm herb-a-licious!
Sauteed Mushroom Egg Sandwich with Fresh Herbs
- 1 piece Ezekiel bread
- 1 large organic cage-free egg
- handful baby bella mushrooms, chopped
- 2 TB Vidalia onion, chopped
- 6 arugula leaves
- 1 TB extra virgin olive oil
- 1 TB balsamic vinegar
- feta cheese, crumbled
- 1 tsp. fresh parsley
- 1 tsp. fresh dill
- salt & pepper to taste
1. Sauté mushrooms and onions in olive oil on medium heat. Add in balsamic vinegar, and bring to a simmer.
2. Return heat to low, and crack an egg over the vegetables. Cook for 3 to 5 minutes, or until to desired consistency and then top with fresh herbs and sprinkle of feta cheese (about 1 TB). Flip egg to ensure cooked through. Note: I like to leave my egg yolk a tad runny.
3. In the meantime, toast the bread, and top with arugula, followed by egg mixture. Add salt and pepper to taste.
This sandwich = one happy boy.
Oh, and the best part of the story? I found out a couple days later that The Boy had known I disliked his bracelet the night before I told him, but couldn’t help to watch in entertainment as I awkwardly confessed. How did he find out? His best friend simply told him, “Dude, she hates your bracelet. It’s not her style.” Now, why can’t I be that blunt? 🙂 Hey, at least he got a free egg sandwich out of it.
Have you ever received a gift from your significant other that you didn’t like, even though you tried really hard to like? How did you break the news? Is your style white lies or blunt honesty?
April 3rd, 2012 at 8:32 pm
This is ADORABLE and a great way to include the “honesty is the best policy” rule to life, unconditional love, and a YUMMY recipe all in one! Fab. You go girl.
April 3rd, 2012 at 9:16 pm
@Marissa Thanks! I feel like I’m at that point in my relationship where I can tell him anything, so I guess that’s a good thing 🙂 It’s funny to look back on the beginning stages where I was so careful to do everything “perfect” and now I can 100% be my lovely, crazy, awkward (and honest) self!
April 4th, 2012 at 8:39 am
I give you credit girl, for telling him the truth!! I have not gotten anything from M that I haven’t liked, thank God! I don’t know what I would do! That egg sandwich looks awesome. And kudos for him for not taking it too hard 😉
April 4th, 2012 at 9:19 am
@jobo haha Thanks, when the day comes you can ask me for tips, although I know everyone handles it differently. He surely did handle it like a champ and we were able to laugh about it later which makes it all better!
April 4th, 2012 at 9:43 am
Haha I love it! Way to go for being honest! That is SO hard to do especially when it comes to a gift like that. but I’m glad you were honest with him in the end, even though it was probably wicked hard for you to work up the nerve! Now he’ll know what to pick out for you better next time, score! 🙂
April 4th, 2012 at 9:53 am
Exactly! I even quizzed him on a walk that day when we passed by a boutique. I said, “Now out of all these things, which one is the most me?” and he got it right! 🙂 He’s learning, and at the end of the day it just comes down to me being a simple gal that doesn’t wear much jewelry to begin with. It’s the thought that counts though, that’s why it was so hard to tell him the truth…
April 4th, 2012 at 4:16 pm
You did the right thing! Always tell the truth and it seems like it worked out fine!!
May 3rd, 2012 at 7:54 pm
I didn’t love the very first gift I got from Adam but he was SO nervous about it and I knew he spent so much time looking for that perfect gift, asking every girl he knew, and then spending way more than he ever spent on a girl, that I just couldn’t tell him. He now knows (now that he gets my style) but I still wear them on occasion when I want to be a little more classy (I usually go for big jewelry but these guys are super dainty). I’m glad you finally told him! Oh and there were a few more gifts after that (still early in our relationship and I just flat out told him we need to exchange them. It gets easier with time 😉
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