Healthy Chicks

Have you ever had someone try to steal your glow — you know kill your vibe? You’re feeling great, you’re having an A-OK day, and then someone kind of stomps all over it.

This happened to me today while going about my daily errands. I ran into someone from my past whom I haven’t seen in years, and casually told them what I was up to. Before asking anything about me, they were quick to say — while laughing hysterically — “What? You quit your job without having another job?” When I told said person about how excited I was to finally focus on my health coaching and freelance writing and look for something part time, they continued to laugh at me. Big, roaring, I-am-judging-you-right-now snicker.

No questions. No congratulations. 100% judgement.

While at first I was insulted, I quickly reined it in and remembered how amazing I am and how I shouldn’t need to feel validated by another — mind you someone who barely knows me. I haven’t felt this happy in a while, and I’m going through a huge transitional period right now, including moving into a new place with my husband. This should be an exciting time. This is an exciting time.

So why do others feel the need to judge? Shame? Laugh? Bring you down? Whether it’s career related, a snide comment about your body or relationship status, I’m sure you’ve dealt with a similar situation at least some time or another.

But let’s set this straight here: First and foremost, it’s important to know that when this happens it’s usually not about you at all; it’s about them and their insecurities or entitlement to share their unsolicited opinion.

They typically don’t know you, your story or anything else about you that warrants that kind of criticism. After all, you know you best and as long as you feel good about yourself (be it your career path/boyfriend/body/income/living situation) that’s all that really matters.

So next time someone tries to rain on your parade, just take a deep breath and just let it fuel the positivity in your life. After all, that stuff is much more powerful.

Stay amazing.

xoxo,

Rachel