What Do You Truly Want…and Why?
As I mentioned in yesterday’s newsletter I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching lately in order to explore my spirituality (especially when it comes to those old money fears that tend to creep up every so often).
I was recently recommended the book “Leveraging the Universe” by Mike Dooley and since I’m always up for a good read I ordered it on Amazon right away. I’ve been reading a few pages every day before bed/whenever I get some down time so I can truly savor it without rushing through.
This morning at the coffee shop I read through the chapter on “Charting your course” and the author had us answer the question, “What do I want?” Not what should you want. Not what should you do. Not what should you be when you grow up. Just what you want / what you truly want to do. Pure and simple.
I honestly had never thought of that question in such a simple way. Instead, I always clog it up with dozens of questions like “But how will I get there?” “But what do you mean?” “Like in real life or fantasy life?” “By when?” In reality, when you push all questions and fears aside, stating what you want really couldn’t get more simple.
I want to have fun while I work.
I want a financially successful & abundant business.
I want to (eventually) marry the love of my life.
I want to feel OK about treating myself to a massage (or one too many trips to Whole Foods) every month.
I want to travel, meet new people & experience the world.
I want to launch a live group program this fall.
I want to publish my e-book by 2014 (hopefully the end of 2013).
I want to inspire women to change & transform their lives for the better.
I want to live happily ever after.
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You see how simple it can be when you really stop & ask yourself what you truly want?
Whenever I meet with a client for the first time, I always ask them what they’d wish for if I could wave a magic wand over their life and give them anything, and I mean anything, they wanted. It’s usually something like “Lose 10 pounds,” “Fall in love,” “Be OK with wearing a bikini in public” or something along those lines.
I then ask the 5 million dollar question, “WHY?” that which always follows with a long pause, some hmms and sometimes even a few tears. You see, getting clear about what you want (i.e. setting an intention) is an important step, don’t get me wrong, but the Why’s are where the big breakthroughs happen.
Do you want to lose 10 pounds or do you want to feel nourished, alive and energized? Do you want to meet Mr. Perfect or do you want to fall in love with yourself? Do you want to rock a bikini in public or do you want to feel sexy & free in your body?
So go ahead and ask yourself what it is you truly want…and then go a little deeper and ask yourself WHY.
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August 14th, 2013 at 3:59 pm
firstly, i love that you were reading this book in a cafe. OBVIOUSLY! 😉
secondly, i really like the idea of asking yourself not just what you want, but WHY. that can reveal so much. i know i used to always want to be skinnier, be perfect, be able to run a 10k, but why? it was always because of shoulds, not wants. not needs! it was coming from a place that wasn’t ME. asking your clients why they want what they want is a great idea.
August 14th, 2013 at 4:30 pm
@Caitlin Nice self-reflection, girl!! It’s always a totally different story when you ask yourself “Why?” And you know us, always in cafes 🙂